Why do I ask what you think if it doesn’t matter?

Heather chopped off several inches of her hair recently and it looks phenomenal. Of course, a new haircut is always strangest for the person who owns the hair – I know, as I’ve had many different hairstyles over the years …

Which makes me think about my haircut theory. A decision so major as to whether to alter our appearance (albeit temporarily) applies to choices we make in life.

In all my different hairstyles over the past decade or so, I have learned one thing: As soon as the thought enters my mind that I might want to change my hairstyle, I already know that means I’m going to change it. Even thought I have figured this out, for some reason, I have to go back and forth, both in my head and to my friends, on whether or not I should do it. I look up photos online, I ask everyone I know if I should change it, I think about it. Decide not to do it. Then decide to do it. Or maybe I shouldn’t. But the final result is always: I’m going for it. Once the thought is in my head, change is coming.

I think the haircut situation applies to many other personal changes in life. We ask each other questions all the time, “Should I break up with him?” “Should I take the job?” “Should I get a dog?”

But the truth is, by the time those thoughts are even, um, thought, we already know the answer.