So I saw a preview for a 20/20 episode about “The Science of Love” and I knew I had to watch it. Scientists have figured out, chemically, what happens to your brain when you fall in love. They’ve determined, based on personality type, who we fall in love with and why. Pretty interesting! The TV show mentioned an online quiz, which of course I had to check out! I did have to sign up for a username/password, so that part was slightly annoying, but I think it was worth it.
Turns out I am a negotiator/explorer, and I am attracted to director/explorers.
I found this quiz very accurate, so I want you to take it! Tell me who you are – and how accurate do you find it? (Come on, even if you’re with someone – this quiz is for non-single people too …)
You are also socially savvy. You are good at both talking and listening. And you generally read people’s faces, body postures and tone of voice accurately, so you often intuitively understand what people want and need.
You are also highly compassionate. You care deeply about others. So you are inclined to make personal sacrifices to be a supportive friend and colleague. And you are idealistic and altruistic; you like to work to improve the world.
And you have an adventurous side; you enjoy new ideas and novel experiences and you want to share these with an enthusiastic partner. But you are particularly fond of people who are direct, decisive, focused and tough-minded, people who complement your more flexible, agreeable and affable style.
- Sees the big picture
- Imaginative
- Intuitive
- Verbal skills
- Empathetic
- Trusting
- Introspective
- Novelty seeking
- Impulsive and spontaneous
- Curious
- Creative
- Flexible
- Open-minded
- Energetic
- Because you can see so many angles to an issue or decision, you can be indecisive.
- Your need to please can turn to placating and your trusting nature can make you gullible.
- When you feel betrayed you can be unforgiving and hold a grudge too long.
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Yeah, too bad I missed the 20/20 episode. I’ll watch online when I get a chance. I did take the test too, (I’m director/explorer) very interesting. Like a little psych eval or something.
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Jeffrey…, you are a Director / Explorer
You seek challenges. You are a tough-minded, independent thinker who likes to explore ideas or problems thoroughly. You focus easily. And you are systematic and exacting in pursuing your interests and goals. You are also assertive. You have a lot of energy. You think quickly, make decisions faster than most, and take an analytical approach to people, issues and ideas.
You are not conventional in your attitudes or values. Autonomy is essential to you. You do not follow the rules unless the rules are logical and useful. Nor do you unreservedly respect authority. Instead, you tend to be skeptical, irreverent and pragmatic. And you are comfortable working or pursuing your hobbies alone.
Yet you have a wild side. You are daring; you like novel ideas and new adventures. You are not interested in maintaining routine social engagements either, and you can’t tolerate “small talk.” Instead, you make a few very close friends, particularly with individuals who share your interests.
Wilbert…, you are aYou are very curious and you love adventure, either or both intellectual and physical. So when you get interested in something, you can become extremely focused on it, sometimes to the exclusion of all around you. You pursue your interests thoroughly, too, often with originality and exactitude.
You are adaptable, competitive and a problem-solver, as well as skeptical, tough minded and determined. Because you have a lot of energy and tend to be enthusiastic about your theories and projects, you can be very persuasive. You are eager to make an impact on those around you, too, as well as in the wider world.
You are irreverent and highly independent. So you can be oblivious to authority figures, as well as to rules, schedules and social customs. And although you enjoy people and can be charming and humorous, you are not interested in routine social engagements or anyone whom you regard as boring. Instead, you seek stimulating and focused conversations; and you are comfortable being by yourself, pursuing your own many interests.
Of all twelve (primary/secondary) types, you are also the most sexual-because both dopamine and testosterone stimulate the sex drive.
Well, this makes it easy: I got the same result as you!
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Wilbert…, You are a explorer/Director you are aYou are very curious and you love adventure, either or both intellectual and physical. So when you get interested in something, you can become extremely focused on it, sometimes to the exclusion of all around you. You pursue your interests thoroughly, too, often with originality and exactitude.
You are adaptable, competitive and a problem-solver, as well as skeptical, tough minded and determined. Because you have a lot of energy and tend to be enthusiastic about your theories and projects, you can be very persuasive. You are eager to make an impact on those around you, too, as well as in the wider world.
You are irreverent and highly independent. So you can be oblivious to authority figures, as well as to rules, schedules and social customs. And although you enjoy people and can be charming and humorous, you are not interested in routine social engagements or anyone whom you regard as boring. Instead, you seek stimulating and focused conversations; and you are comfortable being by yourself, pursuing your own many interests.
Of all twelve (primary/secondary) types, you are also the most sexual-because both dopamine and testosterone stimulate the sex drive. Attracted to Explorer/negotiator
Taking your quiz now, though I watched last night, I think I’m a negotiator.
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Jeff, thanks for posting that! I was just thinking I wanted to know what it’d say for a Director/explorer since it told me that’s who I’d be attracted to. It also makes me wonder if I’d gone the other way on a couple of answers I was debating, if I’d have gotten that result. It does sound like someone I’d get along with, though oddly, very few men I’ve been romantically involved with. Maybe that’s why none of them worked out?!
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I’m a Negotiator/Director. Essentially, I’m a pussy who can’t figure his shit out, but likes to talk about it.
Yay.
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Darren…, you are a
NEGOTIATOR/director
Oh, hell….
Just found out (from Elwood) that I’m a pussy who can’t figure his shit out.
Anyone wanna talk about it???
Darren: That was just my interpretation. Your mileage may vary.
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I’m a Builder/Negotiator. Huh…..
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i’m a negotiator with a bit of explorer/builder but overwhelmingly negotiator.
i just had my heart broken by an explorer who only saw fun where i saw attachment. it kills!! explorers are SO attractive. But don’t kid yourself that they’re ready to commit. 1 eye looks at you, the other eyes sees the guy on the other side of the room.